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December 27, 2019

NLP: A more useful way of thinking by Paul Matthews

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Have you noticed that some people get consistently better results in their lives than others? Ever wondered how they do it? You probably already realise that it is largely about their approach to life, their way of thinking about life. So, what do they do that is different? Is NLP a more useful way of

December 9, 2019

A great quote from George Bernard Shaw

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"The problem with communication is the illusion that it has been accomplished." George Bernard Shaw We say something, we write something, and we think that because we clearly communicated our thoughts and feelings that the other person has understood us. Really? The only way you can know if you communicated successfully is by observing,

July 21, 2019

Communication is the response we get

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I was reminded of this principle a few days ago watching a movie. From my perspective, as the watcher, I could see both sides of the story, but each character in the movie could only see their side and interpreted the same communication event very differently. Chaos ensued, but looking on as the watcher

February 26, 2018

Using the empty chair technique

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I am sure you have found yourself thinking, or even yelling out loud, "How could they possibly do that!" Find a place where you won't be disturbed. Sit in a chair and face another chair. Imagine that the other person is sitting in the other chair and start telling them why you find them

November 20, 2017

In pursuit of our own wisdom

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When we are stuck, we seek out people who are 'wise'. What is wisdom? "Wisdom consists of the anticipation of consequences." Norman Cousins The ability to anticipate consequences comes from experience (yours, or observation of someone else's) AND reflection on that experience. You could say that reflection is the route to wisdom. How much reflection

June 11, 2017

Where’s the good in what you do?

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I have been working on a task this last week that has really made me consider what I am proposing to do from the perspective of the people who will see it. I kept asking myself "Why would they like this?" and "Why is this good for them?" and "How will they react to this?"