We all want to be understood. Paradoxically, this will happen much more readily if we seek first to understand.
And the way we can understand is to ask good and respectful questions.

Follow the link to see a list of things that stop people questioning effectivly, plus some other tips.

Observe yourself next time you are in a conversation. If you find that you want to jump in with a statement, try asking a question instead to enable you to undestand more – and really listen to the answer rather than continuing to rehearse your statement in your head.

The result of doing this regularly is that people will warm to you as they feel acknowledged by you. This will make all your working relationships much easier and more productive. You may also find that they start seeking your opinion!

Alchemy – An approach to questioning

My best wishes, Paul
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